Psychology of Self-Esteem

 People have heard about psychology of self-esteem, but not many of them know what actually it is, how to improve it and what influence self-esteem does on people.

  Some people say that "self-esteem comes from estimable acts". But is it true? Some researchers describe it as overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth. Unfortunately, they don't mention the problems of low self-esteem. Dr Fuller emphasizes problems of self-esteem. People tend to make "blocks" for themselves to make correct actions. They have negative core beliefs, for example "I can't succeed", "I'm not deserved that", "I'm unlovable" and etc. Moreover, one more problem is that people do not resolve painful or traumatic experiences, which leave a big mark into their self-esteem and so they don't trust themselves. In addition, self-esteem is developed largely through interactions with important others, especially parents, siblings, peers, teachers, mentors, children, employers and romantic partners. And as a consequence, we trust in ourselves or not.

   Now let’s talk about people with low self-esteem and healthy self-esteem and how to recognise them. At first, people with low self-esteem rely on the opinions of others and compare themselves with others while people with healthy self-esteem are capable to assess themselves and still be able to value and accept themselves unconditionally. They know their strengths and limitations realistically but it doesn’t disturb them to live.

   Also, there are some tips to raise your self-esteem, according to Dr Fuller, I will mention the most important ones. The first one is to pay attention to your own needs and wants. It also includes activities such as relaxation, eating healthy food, exercising, dressing clothes you like. Moreover, it is advisable to give yourself awards for doing something good. Also, people who want to increase their self-esteem have to do things that make use of their talents and the most important that they shouldn’t be afraid of doing something new, for example communicating with people who treat them good or make a discussion while eating a meal with others.

   To conclude, there are just some factors to improve low self-esteem that could help others to change their lives. Every person is worth for love, respect, happiness and luck. And the most important thing that people are worth to respect themselves, to trust themselves and live the way they want.

References:
http://drrussfuller.com/psychotherapy/improve-self-esteem/

http://psychology.about.com/od/sindex/f/what-is-self-esteem.htm

http://pjvanoverschot.wordpress.com/2012/01/29/self-esteem/
http://isucceedbook.com/expert-perspective/success-principles-six-behaviors-that-increase-self-esteem-by-denis-waitley/attachment/self-esteem/